Sunday, September 13, 2009

Chapter 2

How often do we need others to validate our sense of self? How often do we need to receive praise and compliments before we believe them? Is it wrong to need this? Is it possible to help people create stronger senses of selves by giving them this validation? Or does this (will this?) validation lead to a sense of inflated ego, and an untrue picture of who that person really is? What sorts of keys and factors will allow someone to look at their life in an unbiased manner and see themselves for what they really are, whether that is their perceived notion of themselves or not?

How do you help build someone up without telling them something that is untrue and will possibly hurt them later? How do I help them find solutions to their life problems when I can't even begin to image what those problems might be like to have? This thinking like a counselor stuff is hard work, and I have only just reached chapter two.

4 comments:

Jenny! said...

Uh oh, something tells me the first thing you will do with any couselling lesson you have is try to apply it to yourself. This is not a case of 'physician, heal thyself!'

You may be a little crazy, but you don't need to be analyzed or fixed. We love you the way you are!

Unknown said...

After reading all those questions, they are good questions to pose someone else. You'll drive yourself crazy if you ask yourself all that stuff.
I hope they don't want you to analyze yourself. That's not the purpose of counselling. lol You're to counsel OTHER people.

Try not to think about that stuff too much in regards to yourself

izzy said...

Yeah, but they have a point when they tell you that in order to really help someone else out you gotta know your stuff. And I was really just posing questions in general, they are not really all about me. I was just reading and thinking of these things, so I decided to jot them down. I have this feeling I am going to be looking very inward in this course, which could be very hard but will also be really beneficial. Our prof yesterday was right: it is hard to hold a mirror to yourself. Sometimes you like what you see, and other times you don't. But then you have to want to change those things that you see that you don't like. Lol, another ramble, sorry guys!

Unknown said...

Looking at ourselves is the hardest part. Ever notice how easy it is to tell someone what's wrong with their life, but not with your own? We can always see ways for other people to improve. Looking at ourself if that light is scary and most people refuse to.
You should be proud of yourself for taking this on Izzy.